Yes I do see it. And then the relationship is changed and filled with inner conflicts.
Another usual way people say: I forgive you but I can’t forget so we won’t be friends anymore, and that relationship ends. However, they the one who can’t forget themselves are tormented by that same incident being stored in them dominating their future relationships and ‘so called’ choices.
What K, as @James posted, and what was previously said clearly hints at the fact that if there is no storing then there is no need for forgiveness. However, this is the fact we are living with now, we still record. Should we not talk about the movement of forgiveness and focus instead on the storing mechanism which we as a group usually tend to do?
Going into the question forgiveness. If I choose to forgive, then am doing so because it is the right thing to do which is based on an inner principle (a collection of information) which is always limited. As a result that relationship is going to be always limited as I am limited. Most of us are actually okay with how limited things are as long as order can be maintained ‘controlled order’
Another is I forgive because I now see that I myself am as wrong as the one who previously wronged me. When I start seeing more of myself, and accept that the image I hold of myself is different than what I previously held. However, there is still image being maintained, Altered, yet still being maintained. As the time goes I am now aware of such tendencies in people as I know of it in myself so I won’t get triggered in a similar ways. Yet, the same takes place from an area that is yet to be conscious to myself.
Is that forgiveness? Can control and forgiveness co-exist?