I can’t remember the source, but a while back I read this (paraphrasing) and it resonated:
“You will only change when the pain of change is less than the pain of not changing.”
We are masters at keeping our pain at bay: rationalizing it, escaping from it, denying it, glorifying it, storifying it. We end up with a reasonably happy life (mostly) free of overwhelming pain … but, assuming the quote above is right, the price we pay is astronomical: We effectively prevent deep ‘positive’ change from happening. Rather than leaving the prison, we make our prison cells cozy.