I reflected a bit about what “being serious” could mean (putting aside definitions of course).
It came to my mind that essentially being serious means really wanting to do something and not only agreeing with K. or being convinced by his words. The point behind it is that when one really wants to do something one does it. I remember K. saying: “when you want to climb a mountain (or something equally difficult) you do it.
So, the problem often is that we are not serious because we don’t want to change. This is something which I’ve observed in myself. If someone ever asked me: “why did you not change after all these years?” My answer would be without hesitation: because I don’t want to. We must be extremely honest with ourselves and not pretend that one encountered too much difficulties.
Perhaps the discussion could be moved to the question: why we don’t want to change.
We all (or nearly all) see the necessity for an external change but when we turn to ourselves, we have the basic sensation that we are OK, even when we suffer, or when we see the inadequacy of our thoughts and actions. How to see the fallacy of this sensation?
I remembered a song of Joni Mitchel “Song for Sharon” which I think is a fine reply to our question.
Poets often hit the core of an issue in its simplicity.
"My friends were calling up all day yesterday
All emotions and abstractions
It seems we all live so close to that line
And so far from satisfaction
Dora says, “Have children”
Mama and Betsy say, “Find yourself a charity”
Help the needy and the crippled or put some time into Ecology
Well, there’s a wide wide world of noble causes
And lovely landscapes to discover
But all I really want right now
Is, find another lover"