I don’t suppose people usually take the time to look at themselves seriously. Most of the time we are busy or relaxing, and aren’t interested in any kind of self-reflection. Even if we participate in some kind of activity, yoga, tai chi, meditation, etc., we still think of it as a developing exercise. Just looking at the nature of one self isn’t much understood. We might think of therapy, psychoanalysis, or psychology, but think of it as a way of interpreting the mind in general, and that means we are using a theoretical abstract of the mind, and not actually looking at ourselves.
What we think is a problem, a complication, a confusion, and where we might be experiencing relationship difficulties, or not being able to get life to work well, may in fact be our own un-examined nature. Working with other people we know, we are trying to get a response in a way we think is right, or necessary, and this is failing. Not understanding our own nature, we don’t see a deeper psychological reliance we have on others to solve what is a universal, common, human condition.
It is like not appreciating for ourselves the implications of what is heard, or read, but as a habit, sticking to the limited verbal communication, and so, not sharing the communication. Not sharing a communication, this is put down to the failings of the speaker or writer, and as seen as their mistake, it is thought to be given correction.
Looking at the nature of oneself, you can’t be accepting nor correcting. The looking is the reveal.