Its like a micro-siesta, after a hard day’s pursuit of success, I milk it.
I have noticed that silences have been encouraged by the facilitator when debate gets a bit heated; and also naturally occuring silences when someone says something really peculiar, or akin to a stream of consciousness narrative - that leaves the listener’s brain in a moment of cotton wool/off mode.
Also maybe heavy handed preaching can provoke silence from the listeners - either silence or rebellion.
Its nothing special, I’m comparing it to when the brain just gives up trying, during a high fever for example.
During the dialogue depending on the person speaking (who I feel is non-threatening, nor actually demanding anything of me) and what they say (something that doesn’t seem to require a response) my brain just seems to have nothing to say - which I suppose feels weird to me.
The human brain is usually always dealing with issues.
Compassion, You brought up silence at the start of dialogue. I feel it’s a chance to begin a watching one’s own mind, a watching that can be continued when the conversing begins.
Silence amidst talking or even noise.
But you all are talking about other aspects of silence too. I wanted to throw this one out too. It’s the patient silence of backing off what I want to say to give someone a chance to finish the “second speaking”. I’ve noticed that sometimes someone speaks and then goes quiet for a minute, then begins speaking again. I’ve noticed that this second speaking is often when the important part is said. It seems important that plenty of silent space be given for each other.
It’s hard for me to do when these urges to speak are arising so strongly. When I allow the urges to predominate, afterwards I usually don’t feel good about it. But even this can be observed from silence.