At one level self-interest is necessary to live, to survive and thrive in the world. We need self-interest to feed ourselves, to make money for renting or buying a house, for heating, gas/electricity, paying the bills, etc. To pursue a hobby, an art, a science, probably requires some degree of self-interest. And in relationship we need a degree of self-interest to create healthy boundaries, to not become victims of fraud, manipulation by others, abuse, etc.
And yet self-interest is also destructive in relationship, creating divisions between people.
And beyond our personal relationships, self-interest may be the chief obstacle to a perception of our relationship with the whole of humanity.
So self-interest may be the root cause of every human-created destructive event in the world: wars, division, intolerance, a lack of empathy, etc. And yet we still need self-interest to function in society.
So where do we draw the line between where self-interest is necessary, and where it is unnecessary and destructive?
Two extracts from Krishnamurti on the subject of self-interest:
What is self-interest? ā¦
How deep, how superficial, where it is necessary, where it totally, completely, has no place at all? ā¦
Self-interest has brought about a great deal of confusion in the world, a great deal of disorder, confusion, conflict.
Whether that self-interest be identified with a country, with a community, with a family, or with God, with the beliefs, the faiths and so on, it is all self-interest, seeking enlightenmentā¦
And also there is self-interest when you build a house, have insurance, mortgages. And the self-interest is encouraged commercially.
And also by all religions: they talk about liberation but self-interest first.
And we have to live in this world, we have to function, have to earn money, have children, be married or not married. And living in this world of the twentieth century how deep, or how superficial, is our self-interest? ā¦
Self-interest divides people - right? We and they, you and I, my interest opposed to your interest, my family interests oppose your family interests, your country, my country in which I have invested a great deal of emotion and physical interest for which I am willing to fight and kill, which is war.
And we invest our interest in ideas, faith, beliefs, dogmas, in rituals and so on - this whole cycle. At the root of it there is a great deal of self-interest.
Now can one live in this world daily, clearly, with self-interest where it is necessary - please, I am using this word carefully - where it is physically necessary, and psychologically, inwardly, it is totally abandoned? Is that possible? ā¦
Is it possible for each one of us living here in a very, very complex society, competitive, divided by agreement and disagreementā¦ where do we draw the line between self-interest and no self-interest whatsoever psychologically? Can we do that? ā¦
[So] inwardly, psychologically, can one live without any kind of muttering of self-interest, of the self, the āmeā, which is the essence of self-interest?
(Talk 3, Brockwood Park, 1985)
How can there be right, true relationship between two people when each one considers his own importance?
Self-interest is the beginning of corruption, destruction, whether it be in the politician or the religious man; self-interest dominates the world and therefore there is conflict.
Where there is duality, separation, as the Jew and the Arab, as the Christian who believes in some saviour and the Hindu who doesnāt believe in all this, there is this division: national division, religious division, individual divisions. Where there is division there must be conflict. Thatās a law.
So we live our daily life in a little circumscribed self, a limited self. Self is always limited and that is the cause of conflictā¦
Each one is concerned with himself. He lives in a separate world all to himself. And therefore there is division between you and anotherā¦
So is it possible to understand not intellectually but deeply, that you are the rest of mankind? Whatever you do, good or bad, affects the rest of mankind, because you are mankind.
(Talk 1, Washington DC, 1985)