Your sadness is an expression of your greed. There it is. Face it. When you are sad it is because you are greedy. It has nothing to do with either self-pity or compassion. Compassion is an action, not a feeling. And self-pity is the postponement of action. Sadness is about being greedy for power in relationship. Therefore, find out first what it means to be totally powerless; and you will discover that sadness can never visit you again.
Do you have any questions?
They make medicine for what ails you.
Sir, what is the feeling behind the comment you have made? What is it? Just the feeling, nothing else.
Canāt really pinpoint the feeling, but I know the thoughts.
One hour later:
Okay, I think I know the feelings now. Contempt for your absurdity lately and sympathy for your family. If itās driven by mania, they make a medicine for that.
This is a beautiful response and I thank you for it. You have taken the trouble to find out your feelings.
How shall we know if all this is driven by mania or by something else or by nothing at all? This is the very question I came downstairs with before I opened the laptop. Do you want to go into it with me? Or does your contempt and sympathy prevent you? I donāt mind. But I am asking you. Do you want to go into it? Is there another feeling arising as I ask?
I remember a long time ago, I put this question to someone: āWho the hell is Ceklata?ā You came to an online dialogue group but you never showed your face, so we do not know anything else about you but your name. If the use of āSirā is offensive, please tell me; Iāll use something else.
Iād recommend seeing a doctor to find out. 
I am not asking for your advice, sir. Do you want to go into it with me or not? If you donāt want to, I donāt mind at all. But a blunt answer is better than a humorous diversion. Do you want to carry on and go into it with me? Yes or No?
So we are already starting to see something - are we not? - which is that sympathy has its roots in contempt. This is no different from saying that sadness and greed are related, yet I got called a maniac very quickly. Who is the real maniac here now, I wonder. The one who takes time to consider and find out what we actually are talking about or the one who immediately reacts because they think they know all about it?
Now we have so far these words: sadness, self-pity, compassion, sympathy, contempt - and greed - which at the moment one says is the key ingredient.
Some people have sympathy for Israel dependent upon their contempt for Hamas. Other people have sympathy for Hamas out of their contempt for Israel. And other people have sympathy for both sides out of their contempt for war. But still the war goes on and people in Gaza continue to die. So sympathy is self-indulgence. Thatās the first thing to see. It doesnāt make a blind bit of difference. If you see this, we can go on, and go deeper. You may not like what you see; that is up to you. Contempt and condemnation are in your hands.
Does anyone else have a question? This is a dialogue, not a lecture.
Is there a proper path or a journey from sadness and self-pity to compassion? This is my question in the absence of any other question. On such a journey, what is it that transforms?
There is only a body and its thinking process. The only action is born of thought realizing what it is.Thatās the āobserver is the observedā realization. Without that, youāre just fucking around.
So what is it that transforms? Thought? The body? The thinking process? The observer? Can you show us please? Having gone through it, can you show us exactly what happens? How does self-pity transform into compassion? How does one go from one dimension to another?
You see, I donāt quite understand how you can say that the only action is born of thought realising what it is. That realisation must bring thought to an end, surely. Therefore, why use a phrase like āfucking aroundā? Isnāt thought at work in this sort of phraseology?