For the moment, I am posting the topic title as it appears above and making no further comments upon it, except this short explanatory note. If you are serious about it, you will kindly wait a few days before making any comments about it, allowing the statement to sink in, looking at its relevance in your daily life. I shall do the same.
I am not looking for a discussion or a dialogue about it. I am telling you something profoundly true which affects your whole life. It is something I see very clearly and absolutely. I don’t need to argue about it. It is up to the rest of you to argue about it and work it out, if you wish. I shall attempt to refrain from joining in, watching myself as any urge to interfere arises. Pretend it is a statement of K’s, if you wish, and you are investigating it as you usually do. It is a simple enough statement with no difficult terms within it. It is up to you.
Anyone who objects to this approach must have a very strange brain indeed. Their objections will fall on deaf ears here; and any complaints can go straight to the administrator anyway.
yes rick. i see your point. Betrayal perceived or real is painful. Factually the way we think of friends is more important than what we think of strangers otherwise we are proving that fear of the known is the root of fear, not the fear of the unknown. Strangers cannot disagree with us because they do not know much about us.or our history which is what friends use when they doubt us or criticize us, or judge us in our . friendships? Is that something to consider and ponder on. Is friendship transactional blind loyalty, and if it is is it really friendship?
So there is no divorce needed from strangers, and we do not need to say to them you are a traitor to our friendship for not being loyal; to us like the leader Donald J. Trump,who demands extreme fidelity, even though he throws most everyone under the bus eventually. So Yes friends know where to stick their pins in us during an argument and strangers have to guess our thin spots so those we care about can hurt us by analyzing us or judging us or pretending to be better than us. Friendships can be healed also because most of us are highly reactive, and volatile when questioned or doubted by a friend? . .Are we not? .
