I had to read this twice but after having done so I think you are unto something. The central issue may very well be that we personify our ideas, rendering them real in the process. We become mini-authorities, mini-Hitlers without realizing it.
They are my ideas, and I am real so the ideas are felt as real.
Whereas if there was no personification, they would remain as ideas, ours as well as the other’s, non-threatening, just floating as it were.
We would then be cognizant of what we all here I am sure would agree with, that the description is not the described, that our ideas, no matter how true to what they are pointing at we feel them to be, are not what they are pointing at. Can never be, the truth cannot (* edited) be contained between our ears, only representations can be, What we are looking at lies beyond our images, of ourselves and of the other, as James has pointed out and the content of my mind as Crina has.
It is the creation of authority that we have to vigilant about, the thoughts becoming a thinker, taking on a reality that is not theirs to take on. It is this identification process that is common and the recognition of that, seeing that we all fall prey to that process, of making the thinker out of thought, could be the basis of great friendship. And with friendship comes trust, And freedom (to speak openly without worrying how you will be perceived). And safety. And patience. For patience, with this most difficult of problems, is everything.
As Alice said in “Alice in Wonderland”, I am not afraid of you. You are nothing but a pack of cards".
Can we regard our thoughts in like manner? Quite the challenge. Seems to me that is what we are here for. It isn’t a question of humility or changing what we think or how we think, of not applying ourselves to the subject as best we can. Something else altogether - to not let the authority of self, of personification, seep in. Or, failing that, at least be aware that it has.