Is love an emotion? Is compassion a feeling?


If getting real is important then try changing the “we” to “I”. For example the OP will read like this - “Apparently, I am a stranger to love and compassion, which is a deep sense of the wholeness of existence encompassing also intelligence and beauty; and yet at the same time I seem to be very familiar with a host of personal feelings and emotions”

Then, if trickery isn’t the name of the game, and solicitation the goal, then you ought to start by defining the meaning of the words, " love, compassion, wholeness of existence, intelligence, and beauty", first in general and then how you understand them. After clarifying the meanings of these words and how you are using them, you will then need to clarify this proclaimed “relationship” while explaining the nature of said “fields of existence” taking into account the suggested distinction.

Or, you can simply ignore my post and continue with your vague and deceptive post, which doesn’t illustrate much except an arbitrary use of catchy phrases with no particular meaning.

It is not up to me to define any of the words we are using here; that is not my place. We’ll do it together, if we are so inclined, which may take a little time and patience. Aren’t you a stranger to love and compassion? Or have you the whole package neatly wrapped?

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This is our language; it is not mine or yours. So together we’ll have to find out whatever meaning these words have. Your definition of love may be different from mine. And even if we agree on an identical definition of love down to the very finest details, is the definition of love ever going to be the thing itself?

So we are strangers to it, all of us, no exceptions. It is only then that we are free to discover the truth about it. Or we can continue to argue about words and their usage.

Please elaborate…

Well put. This should remain.

Well, then you should have no problems changing your pronouns from “we” to “I” not only in your latest thread and i quote–

It boggles the mind to ponder this question because challenge and response is all we (I) know, and we’re (I am) so inept at responding to challenge that we (I) don’t even know how inept we (I) are (am). We (I) don’t always know when we’re ( I am) being challenged or what the challenge is. We (I) smugly assume we’re (I am) doing all right when, in fact, we (i) are (am) stumbling and bumbling, sputtering and babbling, cluelessly (but confidently) proceeding with our (my) make-believe lives until we ( I will) expire.

I have done the corrections on the above quote on your behalf. I am guessing you will go ahead and correct all your threads and posts as well as make sure you won’t commit these mistakes in future?

No. The word ‘love’ is not my word or your word; it has been handed down to us over generations, both carelessly and carefully. It is our job to work out what it means.

Hi @PaulDimmock

@United78 is not around now in this forum - so I’m Sorry he can’t reply for your post as of now.


I’m sure he’ll come back in another form.


Because love cannot be merely just an encounter with what is both familiar and forgotten (such as what is spoken of in the non-dual tradition (monism/wholeness) or in the divine Hindu game of Leela, wherein the absolute hides itself from itself in order to be rediscovered again and again. If it were so, then eventual discovery of the familiar (“when I look into your eyes, I’m home”) would indicate the death of love and the birth of the sentimental and not only is sentiment not love, it also breeds contempt. But in order for love to find me, then I must also find it as that which stands out and is set apart from all expectations and conditions. This is what calls me to attend. That is attention. Attention is what calls me without recourse to decline (choiceless). As in, I cannot refuse your advances; be they welcome or unwanted.

So, love is not simply a process where like finds like again as when my phenomenal subjective experience realizes its illusion and thus is restored to its rightful place back once again within the bosom of the whole from whence it sprang. Nor is it a restoration to what was most familiar. But love, (as in love of God) calls us to attend. And what calls us to attend must exceed all expectations including rediscovery in order to hold our gaze captive. Otherwise, we’d never hear it. It would be just like any other noise.

What do you think K is indicating when he writes “suddenly the Beloved was with us,” or “only then the Other is there”?

Beyond fragmentation, and even beyond the restored world mind, lies the Other. The world mind is not an end point. Nor is it a cosmic emptiness or void. It is more like a staging ground upon we which we are set to receive that which is more, that which is unfinished and inexhaustible.

Might there be a similarity in the approach to using language here, to the political and economic methodology of our time, in which profit is privatised, but debt socialised? That is, I socialise (we) when it is to my advantage to do so, and likewise privatise (you) to hand an other fault, or shortcoming, as a useful defence or deflection? In this way I can be inconsistent in my handling of things but always right in my own eyes which others may pick up on. Is this not all part of observing the subtle movement of myself both conscious and unconscious. I can start any thread I like, using any subject or any terminology, but if my approach is rigidly the same from the outset, it will end in the same way each time.

The point I am making here is, if our language is a common property, and our consciousness is too, that is my consciousness is the consciousness of mankind, then there is no true private in that sense. So if within the body politic, which the forum can be conceived to be, there is fractiousness, which arises in relationship to myself continually, I can take the view that this fractiousness belongs to the one exhibiting it, and for which they are responsible, which they are, but I can also take the overview, that I have a responsibility for it too, even when I may be able to claim I am technically correct, or I am acting within a certain remit. That is I am not blameless in that sense, and I am not an innocent party, I am an aspect of it too, even if I am unconscious of it in myself, and so I have a responsibility to look at all this, as part of understanding myself in the round.

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I think you are being too clever about it.


I take it you don’t want to address the point of sharing responsibility for the fractiousness evident in threads you start?

I am happy to address any question. Go for it.

Love “calls us to attend” because it exceeds “all expectations”. Love is rapt attention?

I stand corrected…

The only purpose to any of this as an activity is to learn about myself, and that requires vulnerability, but when I do not actually want that to happen, then this all becomes rather pointless do you not think?

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I am not sure what the purpose is of all these exchanges. That’s something we find out as we go along. If we know the purpose in advance, that’s what makes it all rather pointless, isn’t it?

What does we signify to you here?

Hi @Dominic

As much as this is a ‘question’ - you are safe here. If it becomes a suggestion/statement like @presence or @united78 - your replies might also be flagged as ‘argumentative’ - even if @PaulDimmock or @Inquiry don’t feel that way.

And if you question that, ‘proofs’ will not be shown and no indication/linkage of “which point in ‘terms & conditions’ is violated” will be shown. But, you may also be suspended and your threads may also be deleted. :joy:

So, it’s advisable - if this ‘we’/‘I’ issue stops (or) continues in questioning level. :shushing_face:

But who knows what happens next . Even ‘Viswa’ may be thrown out of this forum too - because of his feedbacks. :sweat_smile:

So be safe. :wink:

Thanks :blush: